How can this be you ask? Why the media tells me I must look like a supermodel and that's not possible. Estee Lauder and Elizabeth Arden tell me I must use their makeup or forget it, I will be ugly forever; my parents told me I was stupid and would never amount to anything. Yep, that's all true too. But, as an adult we choose! We choose to feel good about ourselves or not. We do this by how we "talk" to ourselves or what is known as "self-talk."
Here's a quick test you can take to measure your self-esteem. Why don't you take a quick break and complete it and come back here.
So, how did you do? I wouldn't be surprised if many did not do as well as you thought. What to do? The answer is simple yet requires your time and consistency in making a permanent change. The website you just visited (I hope) has some answers.
- Focus on achievements. Very important!
- Make plans for the future. Stop procrastinating and start planning.
- Focus on what you like about yourself and stop highlighing what you think are your defects. We all have strengths and we all have things we would change. So, if you can change, do it. If you can't, why focus on it?
I will devote next week's Beautiful Blogging post to self-talk. Since it impacts our self-esteem, our anxiety and stress level, and our mood, I would like to share some strategies on how to change your self-talk from negative to positive. Remember, it's a pattern of behavior, thus we can change this pattern.
ADDED 7/29/10 - please visit my friend Pam's blog to view her post on creative coping http://kittyandmedesigns.blogspot.com/
Have a wonderful week!